Beliefs, Values, Personality

Ok, here go some wild stabs in the dark:

I believe:
- Clothing makes people believe things about you
- Dress codes have a place, but should never be used to rule people out ... the club should always have a loaner jacket available
- Clothing is a significant economic activity - one of the big basics along with food, shelter and medical care - and it needs to be sustainable

I value:
- Interest
- Formula Dressing
- Practicality/Durability
- Warmth(!)
- Risk but not the Risqué

- Am incurably quirky and waify
- Am borderline introvert/extrovert
- Am lighthearted but stern... casually intense ... Mary Poppins is my role model, hehe
- Need something to think about to stay awake and to go to sleep and depend on fashion for that ... I said quirky right?
- Am comfortable with the homeless talking to me, parties with prime ministers, but not so much those who find camaraderie in being small nosed blondes after a lot of plastic surgery and hair dye... jus’ sayin’... I could never summon that kind of effort...

... Hmm. How did I do? Tried not go too far afield...

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  • Firecracker (Sharan) replied 3 years ago

    Very interesting and well articulated, as usual, Rachylou. What I've seen of your style reflects a lot of these traits, beliefs, values.

  • Runcarla replied 3 years ago


  • Irina replied 3 years ago

    I was recalling some of your outfits while reading. Right on money :)

  • Ledonna N. replied 3 years ago

    Just as I imagined you to be after all of these years reading your comments and post. You are a friend in my head. We just have not met yet

  • Bijou replied 3 years ago

    You embody someone who has fun with fashion and has a signature style that is 100% congruent with their authentic self. Thank you for sharing your wonderful self with us on the forum.

  • Stagiaire Fash replied 3 years ago

    Miss Rachylou, where is the second half of the assignment, where you connect these beliefs, values and personality traits to your sartorial choices? I’m waiting (tapping foot impatiently).


    One thing you didn’t mention is that you have a sense of humor and can roll with things.

    It’s so fun to see people explicate their personalities here. I’m totally with you on your beliefs and on who to enjoy spending time with, btw.

  • Brooklyn replied 3 years ago

    Well, I’m with you on needing fashion to get to sleep. I thought it was just me :)

    Well done. I always enjoy your analysis and contributions here.

  • Mainelady replied 3 years ago

    Genuine, authentic, realistic and fun!

  • kkards replied 3 years ago

     Mary Poppins is my role model,

    This one sentence explains so much.

  • suntiger replied 3 years ago

    :) I definitely see at that in your style, aside from maybe the formula dressing!

    I try to have compassion for the small nosed blondes. Aging is much harder on them than the rest of us!

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    Oh dear, kkards. Lol! Have I said too much? Lol! :)

    Oh dear, FI. Lol! That’s true. I’m afraid it all boils down to ‘put a puffer over it.’

    ... On congruency, I have to comment that corporate office dressing seems the hardest - producing the most churn - esp as a contractor changing workplaces every few years. Other odd thoughts that I tend to have creep in... like wanting to match the architecture... Lol. Those shiny high rises make me want to wear thin little shiny shoes... Lol ;)

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    ST: I really have only one type of pants - skinnies, lol. It’s one culottes, one harem pants, one flares, one crop flares and then a bazillion skinnies ;)

  • Helena replied 3 years ago

    Rachy yes, you nailed it ... I would suggest one more adjective, but I'm not sure what it should be ... "Socratic" comes to mind ... you have a playful way of conferring your deep wisdom, in a way to doesn't make any claims to having wisdom, thereby demonstrating the depth of your wisdom ... if that makes sense. And I'm not sure, but that somehow must relate to puffers too :D

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    Brooklyn - someone else! I’m not alone!! :)

    Helena - I feel, I don’t know, a need for a line of Socratic branded puffers now. I feel a logo coming on... a hemlock! And the first item in this line is going to be a long long puffy gilet with contrast piping... I am inspired! :D

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    Firecracker, Carla, Irina, Bijou, Mainelady - I’m glad you see some of this. Mostly, I have thoughts and wonder then what happened! Hahahaha!

    Ledonna, I am certain we are friends! :)

  • Helena replied 3 years ago

    Best business idea ever!!!!

  • RobinF replied 3 years ago

    Sounds about right! I love "put a puffer over it", that is pretty much winter outfits.

  • LaPed replied 3 years ago

    Love it! I promise to back your Socratic puffer gilet on Kickstarter. ;)

    And I fully identify with "Need something to think about to stay awake and to go to sleep." The only time I ever really plan an outfit is when I can't fall asleep. Ditto meals! 

  • Stagiaire Fash replied 3 years ago

    I try to have compassion for the small nosed blondes. Aging is much harder on them than the rest of us!
    Funny and deeply true!

  • Jaime replied 3 years ago

    Am comfortable with the homeless talking to me, parties with prime ministers...
    To me this is the key to your personality, at least as much as I know it.
    Although the Mary Poppins reference is evocative too.

  • replied 3 years ago

    Picking out an outfit is energizing and calming! :)

  • slim cat replied 3 years ago

    What a fun read ! Definitely you - on point :) .

  • nemosmom replied 3 years ago

    I will take a Socratic puffy in green, please!  Love your break down, Rachy - and I think you nailed it!  I love your association to Mary Poppins and can absolutely picture you at the bakery, snapping your fingers, while uttering, "Spit spot!" :D

  • Minaminu replied 3 years ago

    Excellent summary Rachylou! I think it is very you :)

  • Kaelyn replied 3 years ago

    Well said, and fun to read--you to a T.

  • Suz replied 3 years ago

    OMG. I so want to meet you in person!!! 

    ALL of this is reflected in your style -- the fashion we see you wear, but also your style of expression here on the forum. What a kind and joyful and hilarious presence you have. We're lucky to know you here.

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    You are so warm and generous, Suz! When this covid is all over, the YLF meet-up needs to make a comeback!

  • Angie replied 3 years ago

     I've had the pleasure of meeting you in person, Rachy - and I say you've nailed it. 

    I see fabulous inside-out style congruency. Lots of accurate reflections and execution between your beliefs, values and personality, and the way you present yourself to the world. Quirky Deluxe :)

  • replied 3 years ago

    I'm a small-nosed blonde, so thanks for putting me in my place.  

    Should I have my nose enlarged or dye my hair so I'll be more acceptable to you all?  

  • Stagiaire Fash replied 3 years ago

    Xtabay, not only is my sister naturally blonde with a naturally not-very-big nose, she is actually named Karen! If you’re in the US or follow news from there, you know what a disaster that is/that she has to be able to understand when things are/aren’t directed at her, and how to take a joke. Tone is infamously hard to read online. I hope your comment is meant light-heartedly and that you aren’t hurt.

  • replied 3 years ago

    I thought it was a hurtful comment, yes.  Surprised to see that kind of thing on here.  

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    I apologise Xtabay.

    If you like, we can talk more about what it means to be a small-nosed blonde, naturally and unnaturally, and what it means to face those who find a particular camaraderie in it.

  • Stagiaire Fash replied 3 years ago

    Rachylou, excellent point, whether a person is born blonde or chooses it later, there is value placed on it.

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    I’ll be candid and say those I refer to do not accept natural small-nosed blondes as they are any more than they do anyone else. It is a demanding aesthetic.

  • replied 3 years ago

    Thanks, I accept the apology.

    I guess we are free to dislike whom we dislike, but to base it on looks is, I think, wrong.  Some would say prejudiced.

  • Stagiaire Fash replied 3 years ago

    Xtabay, now you’re baiting, laying that out there like there aren’t centuries of values attached to appearances, and acting like the mention of that actual history is the problem.

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    Ah. I just want to say I’m not saying I dislike small-nosed blondes. ‘Small-nosed blondes’ is a tribal call. People squeal it and then invites get issued
    to the ladies club. It has little to do with any real physical features. You don’t actually even have to dye your hair blonde. There is a way to bond with this phrase and not have gone blonde. As a bit of a peripheral person on this world, it’s not that I dislike anybody, but I am extremely uncomfortable. Both because I could never put that much energy into my personal appearance and because it’s very hard to room with girls who ... eat one green bean a day and then throw it up because their mum told them to watch their weight so they can get a man.

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    And then there is indeed, FI, the whole thing about ‘gentlemen prefer blondes’ and ‘blondes have more fun’ ... and in those old movies, the blondes having more fun were all ‘platinum blondes,’ were they not? Just about everybody losing out there, including real blondes.

    (Plus, yeah, the crimes against humanity. Ahem.)

  • suntiger replied 3 years ago

    I'm sorry Xtabay for my comment. What I imagined was someone that had a lot of plastic surgery, to the point of looking totally unnatural. People in the media that come across as shallow, but I expect have a lot of fear behind it.

    I didn't picture at all anyone on this forum, or that I know in real life, with blonde hair and/or a small nose.

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    Thank you, Suntiger.

    But ok, let’s close this down before I lose my thread on fashion and Mary Poppins... !

  • replied 3 years ago

    FI, I'm not baiting anybody.  Why don't you stop stirring a pot that doesn't need stirring?  Nobody likes to be stereotyped.  Period.  This is my last comment on this thread.

    And thanks, Suntiger, for your thoughtful comment.  I do appreciate it.

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